Be Willing

I’ve been teaching The Living Art for 6 years now and I’ve had the honor of helping a variety of people overcome their limits.  I often wonder why more people don’t walk this path.  Recently, I realized that most aren’t aware that something is missing nor what it means to turn within. Many become comfortable with masking the uncomfortable feeling that keeps poking them by turning to something that will numb the pain.  Is it that evening beverage, working out obsessively, the “buy now” retail therapy loop, or has food become a forever bestie? Instead of listening, turning to a familiar pattern might feel like a viable solution, but the reality is—it will never be a sustainable path to lasting inner peace.  The reason?  Because what requires healing is inside of you, not outside of you.  External distractions pull you further away.

The Journey Begins.

When I review the different ways people have come to and intersected with my work, I see that there is one critical component on the journey of inner transformation.  There is a starting point that is the same for everyone.  And that is the first step.

We’ve all heard, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”  That single step is so important because it is your first step.  I want to take you even deeper so that by the end of this post, you are crystal clear about what “taking the first step” means when it comes to applying it directly to your own life.

So, what is the first step?  Where are you stepping?  In what direction should you be looking?  This way?  That way?  Where???  Before you get overwhelmed, just consider this.  Think of the “first step” as an internal switch that needs to be turned on.  Therefore, it’s not a physical step. It is a decision that you make within yourself so you can start the process of change.  The crucial “first step” is being willing—being willing to introspect and get to know yourself.  To be willing to get to know you, the real you, maybe for the first time.  This is your first step.   

The tricky part is that there is a difference between saying “I’m willing” and actually “being willing.”  You can say “I’m willing”, but then continue to ignore doing the actual work.  This is not “being willing”, but it’s pretending to be willing so you can trick yourself. This will only take you around in circles, eventually leaving you feeling frustrated and hopeless because no-thing is changing in your life. Let’s set ourselves up for success, instead.

Embrace An Introspective Journaling Practice:

Being willing, truly willing, is an internal shift that occurs so you can start the process of looking within.  Being willing means, you give yourself permission to pause and look at yourself.  To slow down so you can introspect.  To look at yourself without any shame or fear, but with a curiosity. Then, you act.  Journaling is a wonderful way to start the introspective process as it allows you to explore and discover.  Start with a notebook and pen, then begin by asking yourself, “How am I doing today?  I mean, really doing.  Do I have any tension?  What might be causing it?” Set the intentional space so you can allow whatever appears.  Instead of trying to change what you hear or distort what you know to be true in your heart, see if you can approach this exercise without any judgements. You are the observer and your job is to listen and record.

To learn more about how to start your own journaling practice, I’ve written an entire blog post called “Journaling: A Path Within”.

Make time each day to do a simple check-in with yourself.  You don’t have to create a complicated list of prompts to follow or put pressure on yourself to “perform”.  Rather, you’re showing up with the intention to just see how you are doing on the inside.

Be Willing & Be Transformed.

The most important component of this entire process is YOU.  Unless you show up for you, your life is going to continue along the same course.  Until you decide that you’ve had enough, the locomotive called “my life” will keep chugging along the internal tracks that you’ve laid in place.

Even if these tracks were put in place unconsciously and even if they are causing you harm, they are the dominant narratives that control your life.  You will not switch tracks unless you become conscious and start creating the new pathways within yourself.    

If you don’t take the time to get to know yourself and take care of your inner-self, nothing will change.  So, stay curious and understand that you’re taking the steps to build a relationship with yourself.  It will take time, practice and devotion, but it is a path filled with promise and profound beauty.

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Reconnect With Nature

Much of my childhood was spent playing in the forest.  Tree limbs were my jungle gym and sticks became my excavating tools as I would dig for rocks and quartz.  I can still smell the fresh scent of the forest ground and feel the textured bark upon my toes.  As I’ve grown up, my natural affinity with nature has not only sustained me, but it has nurtured and healed me as well.  When I am in the presence of the forest, I feel embraced—I feel heard, seen and welcomed.  In an era marked by an increased disconnection from the natural world, there is a growing yearning for something that can restore balance, peace, and well-being in our lives.  Enter Shinrin-Yoku, the Japanese art of Forest Bathing.       

Shinrin-Yoku (森林浴)

Shinrin-Yoku (森林浴), which translates to “forest bathing" or “taking in the forest atmosphere," originated in Japan in the early 1980s.  It was developed as part of a national wellness program to combat the stress and health issues arising from the rapid urbanization and overwork experienced by the Japanese population.  The practice has since evolved into a popular form of ecotherapy, attracting global attention for its potential to improve mental and physical well-being.  Shinrin-Yoku, as an extension of the Japanese people's love for nature, stems from the nation's deep cultural and spiritual connections to the natural world.  This reverence for nature can be traced back to Japan's ancient Shinto and Buddhist beliefs, which have significantly influenced the country's customs, arts, and values.

The term “Shinrin-Yoku" is composed of two Japanese words: “Shinrin" (森林), meaning “forest," and “Yoku" (浴), meaning “bathing" or “immersing oneself."  Together, they represent the act of immersing oneself in the forest atmosphere, absorbing its essence, and connecting deeply with the natural world through all five senses.  The research clearly shows that there are numerous physiological benefits of Forest Bathing, such as reduced stress, anxiety, and depression.  Forest Bathing has also been found to enhance mood, focus, and creativity, while fostering a sense of calm and clarity.  The science confirms what we already intrinsically know—being immersed in nature is beneficial for our well-being.

Forest Bathing enables individuals to connect deeply with nature and experience its restorative and healing powers.  The practice is not limited to avid hikers or conservationists, but it is a practice that is open to everyone due to its focus on conscious connection.   The experience of Shinrin-Yoku is there for everyone to experience through becoming more aware of what’s around you and welcoming the forest presence into your awareness. In this expanded state, we can appreciate the beauty, tranquility, and wisdom of the natural world, allowing us to find solace, inspiration, and rejuvenation amidst the modern world's pressures and demands.

Immersing Yourself in the Forest:

Here’s a step-by-step guide for beginners to help you approach the Shinrin-Yoku experience.  Having a framework will facilitate the planning and the time you spend out in nature.

1.     Schedule a Full Day: Start by fitting the experience into your schedule.  Plan to dedicate the entire day to your Shinrin-Yoku outing so you don’t feel pressured to rush or get back in time for another commitment.  Give yourself permission to dedicate this time as a gift for your well-being. 

2.     Selecting the Ideal Setting: Choose a forested area that feels safe, inviting, and accessible.  Consider factors such as the level of human activity, accessibility, and the diversity of plant life when selecting your Shinrin-Yoku location.

3.     Setting Your Intention: Before entering the forest, set an intention for your experience, such as releasing stress, cultivating mindfulness, or deepening your connection to nature.  This intention will guide your journey and help you remain present throughout the practice.

4.     Engaging Your Senses: As you walk slowly and mindfully through the forest, immerse yourself in the sensory experience by noticing the sights, sounds, smells, textures, and taste the fresh forest aroma.  Pay attention to the nuances of the forest, such as the rustling of leaves, the fragrance of damp earth, or the sensation of sunlight filtering through the canopy. Bring all your attention upon the experience and allow your senses to soak up the healing properties of being in nature.

5.     Embracing Stillness and Presence: Find a comfortable spot to sit or stand, and spend time in stillness, allowing the forest to envelop you.  Focus on your breath and let go of any thoughts or distractions that arise, returning your attention to the present moment and the sensations of the natural world.

6.     Reflecting and Integrating: After completing your Shinrin-Yoku experience, take some time to reflect on your journey and any insights or emotions that emerged during the process.  Consider journaling about your experience or sharing it with a friend or family member to further integrate its lessons into your daily life.

A Journey of Transformation and Renewal

The ancient wisdom of nature, harnessed through Shinrin-Yoku, is a powerful tool for modern living, enabling individuals to reconnect with the natural world, heal from the stressors of contemporary life, and foster a greater appreciation for the environment.  By immersing ourselves in the breath of the living forest, we embark on a transformative journey that not only rejuvenates our minds and bodies but also instills within us a renewed sense of purpose and connection to the world around us.

As you venture into the realm of Shinrin-Yoku, remember that this practice is a deeply personal and unique experience.  Embrace the opportunity to explore and discover your own path towards healing, growth, and self-discovery.  With each step taken in the forest, allow the whispers of nature to guide you, opening your heart and mind to the beauty, wisdom, and serenity that the natural world has to offer. In the words of naturalist and environmental philosopher John Muir, “In every walk with nature, one receives far more than he seeks." As you immerse yourself in the art of Shinrin-Yoku, may you find solace, inspiration, and a renewed sense of wonder in the embrace of the forest.

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Emotional Alchemy

My education on emotional resilience began after I graduated from college.  For 9 years, I continually grew and perfected my understanding of how to navigate my emotions in stressful situations through being a waitress.  When I first began, I was extremely fragile and remember crying in the restaurant’s basement because I didn’t know how to manage how I felt.  Over the years, I studied what was happening inside of me and used it as a wonderful opportunity to not only get to know myself better but evolve in the process.  Being emotionally resilient is something we can all learn and it’s an extremely beneficial quality to cultivate.  So, let’s take a closer look and learn how we can embrace life's challenges as opportunities for growth and self-discovery.

Healthy Coping Strategies

Emotional resilience is the ability to adapt and bounce back from adversity, stress, and challenging experiences.  It involves effectively managing emotions, maintaining a positive outlook, and coping with difficult situations in a healthy manner.  Ignoring the problem by turning to emotional eating, self-criticism or dwelling on negative thoughts and feelings all fall under the category of unhealthy coping strategies.  Emotional resilience is not about avoiding negative emotions, but rather about recognizing and managing them in a way that promotes growth and learning.  In this way, it’s something everyone can access and cultivate in their life.

Being emotionally resilient is an essential aspect of personal growth and well-being.  Emotional resilience matters for several reasons, including improved mental health, as it enables individuals to effectively manage their emotions and cope with challenging situations.  Additionally, emotional resilience allows for faster recovery from adversity, leading to a quicker regain of balance and well-being.  Enhanced coping skills, developed through emotional resilience, better equip people to handle stress and adversity, while also fostering a greater sense of life satisfaction through a stronger sense of purpose and meaning.  Finally, emotional resilience contributes to better relationships by enabling individuals to effectively manage conflicts, communicate efficiently, and maintain a positive attitude during difficult times. 

Emotional resilience is often perceived as a psychological quality, but it extends far beyond the realm of the mind.  From a spiritual standpoint, emotional resilience is a reflection of our inner strength and spiritual growth.  It represents our ability to tap into a deep wellspring of inner wisdom, allowing us to navigate the storms of life with grace and equanimity. Central to the spiritual dimensions of emotional resilience is the practice of mindfulness. Cultivating present-moment awareness allows us to become grounded in our inner experience, free from the pull of past regrets or future anxieties. By embracing non-judgment and self-compassion, we can approach our emotions with curiosity and openness, granting ourselves the space to grow and evolve.

The Alchemy of Emotional Resilience: Transforming Challenges into Opportunities

True emotional resilience requires a fundamental shift in perspective, transforming challenges into opportunities for growth and self-discovery.  By reframing our adversities as catalysts for personal transformation, we can begin to find meaning and purpose in the most difficult of circumstances.

Gratitude, too, plays a pivotal role in cultivating emotional resilience.  When we express gratitude for our challenges, we shift our focus from what is lacking in our lives to what is present, opening ourselves to the gifts and lessons that adversity offers.

The ability to transmute negative emotions into positive energy is a powerful tool in the arsenal of emotional resilience.  Through intention and visualization, we can harness the energy of our emotions, directing it toward personal growth and spiritual development.

Practices to Ignite Your Spiritual Journey to Emotional Resilience

Embarking on a spiritual journey to emotional resilience may seem daunting, but with the right practices and mindset, you can unleash the transformative power within you.  Here are some unique and creative practices to help you cultivate emotional resilience:

1.     Embrace the Alchemist Mindset: Approach challenges with curiosity and an open heart, viewing each obstacle as an opportunity to transform and grow.  Recognize that adversity is the crucible in which your inner strength and wisdom are forged.

2.     Gratitude Journaling: Dedicate time each day to reflect on your life's challenges and write about the lessons and blessings they have brought you.  This practice shifts your focus to the positive aspects of your life, helping you develop a more optimistic outlook.

3.     Emotional Energy Transmutation: When negative emotions arise, pause and acknowledge them.  Then, visualize these emotions as raw energy that can be redirected toward your personal growth and spiritual development.  For example, imagine transforming anger into determination or fear into courage.

4.     Mindful Meditation: Develop a regular meditation practice to cultivate self-awareness and emotional balance.  Focus on your breath and observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment, allowing them to flow through you, and gaining insight into your emotional patterns.

5.     Affirmation Crafting: Create personalized affirmations that empower and inspire you during challenging times.  Repeat them daily to reinforce positive beliefs and cultivate emotional resilience.

6.     Seek Out Inspirational Stories: Immerse yourself in stories of individuals who have overcome adversity and transformed their challenges into opportunities for growth.  These stories can provide motivation and perspective on your own journey toward emotional resilience.

7.     Nature Immersion: Spend time in nature to observe its inherent resilience and adaptability.  Allow the natural world to inspire and inform your own emotional resilience practice, reminding you that growth and renewal are intrinsic to life.

8.     Creative Expression: Channel your emotions into art, writing, music, or dance as a means of transforming and releasing them.  Creative expression can be a powerful avenue for self-discovery and emotional healing.

9.     Foster a Supportive Community: Connect with others who share your values and are committed to personal growth.  Share your challenges and triumphs and support one another on your journeys toward emotional resilience.

10.  Engage in Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding when facing challenges, recognizing that emotional resilience is a lifelong journey.  Acknowledge your progress and celebrate your victories, no matter how small they may seem.

Let the Light In

As you embrace the benefits of cultivating emotional resilience, it's essential to remember that this journey is an ongoing process, not a one-time achievement.  By embracing the alchemy of emotional resilience, we invite transformation and growth into our lives, turning challenges into opportunities for self-discovery and personal evolution.  As you continue to cultivate emotional resilience, you'll find an inner strength and wisdom that will not only empower you to face life's adversities but also illuminate the path toward greater spiritual awakening and purpose.

In the words of the great Persian poet Rumi, “The wound is the place where the Light enters you."  Embrace your wounds and imperfections as opportunities for growth, and let the light of resilience, compassion, and self-awareness guide you on this journey.  As you implement these practices and nurture your emotional resilience, you'll discover that the most challenging moments in life can become your greatest teachers and catalysts for change.  So, embark on this transformative journey, and embrace the beautiful alchemy of emotional resilience that lies within you.

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Unlock Your Inner Poet

A Gateway To Your Creativity:

In the vast tapestry of human expression, poetry has long been a medium through which we capture the fleeting beauty of our experiences, feelings, and thoughts.  Life can be complex and at times chaotic where conversational words cannot capture the vastness of our experiences.  Writing poetry is a way to pierce through the noise and connect with something deeper.  It has helped me process layered emotions and profound insight that ordinary sentence structures alone could not do justice.  Through the creative use of words, a poet is someone who can turn ordinary experiences and observations into something evocative and memorable.  In this blog post, I’ll be introducing you to a form of poetry that opens the door for all of us to put our poetic hats on and step into the enchanting world of word art. 

A Brief History of Haiku

Among the myriad forms of poetry, there is a traditional Japanese form of poetry called 俳句, or haiku.  The first character 俳 (hai) means “actor” or “comic,” which hits at the playful and creative nature of haiku poetry.  The second character 句 (ku) means “phrase” or “verse” and refers to the structure and form of the poem.  Haiku dates back to the 17th century and is characterized by its short, three-line structure, with a syllabic pattern of 5-7-5.  This classic syllable structure makes it stand out as an approachable format that can readily be adopted, even by the complete novice.  Haiku often focuses on nature and the changing seasons, capturing the essence of a moment in time with vivid imagery and powerful emotion.  It is characterized by its brief and evocative nature, and it is a powerful way to connect with our creative essence and discover the transformative power of simplicity.   

One of the most famous haiku poets is Matsuo Basho, who was born near Kyoto, Japan in 1644.  He is considered one of the greatest haiku poets in Japanese literature and is often referred to as the "father of haiku." Born as Matsuo Kinsaku, he later adopted the pen name Basho, derived from the banana tree (basho) that was gifted to him by a disciple.  Basho played a significant role in elevating haiku to a highly regarded form of literary expression with his mastery of form along with his depth and simplicity.

Basho's haiku often interweave observations of the natural world with human emotions and experiences, reflecting the Japanese cultural and spiritual connection to nature. His poems capture the essence of a moment, evoking a sense of both beauty and impermanence.  Basho's haiku demonstrate a profound depth of thought and feeling, often exploring themes of solitude and the passage of time.  His poems have remained accessible and relatable due to their simplicity and clarity.

Here is an example of his work (ume is a Japanese plum tree that flowers early, often symbolizing the start of spring):

English Translation:

The spring haze.

The scent already in the air.

The moon and ume.

 Embrace The Simple Moments:

The serenity of the moment shines through Basho’s poetry, but haiku can also be used to capture the essence of everyday life.  Even the most mundane aspects of life can be transformed into poetry through the lens of haiku.  Here's a playful example for inspiration (notice the 5-7-5 syllable structure):

Dirty laundry piled,

A mountain of socks and shirts—

Washer sings its song.

Everyday Haiku

This haiku shows how everyday life, infused with creativity and humor, can be elevated to a form of art.  Washing dishes?  Turn it into haiku.  Stuck in traffic?  Sounds like an opportunity to be creative!  Creativity is the key here.  It plays a crucial role in our lives as it contributes to our overall well-being, allowing us to express our thoughts, emotions, and experiences.  This leads to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our inner world. Haiku poetry encourages this self-expression by capturing moments and emotions in a concise yet powerful manner.  It enhances our ability to adapt because creative thinking helps us approach problems and challenges from different perspectives, enabling us to find innovative solutions.  Haiku, with its focus on imagery and succinct language, trains our minds to distill complex ideas and emotions into their core essence, sharpening our problem-solving abilities.  By embracing the art of haiku, we tap into the wellspring of our imagination and engage in a practice that benefits our minds, hearts, and souls.

ready to explore your creativity?

Let’s discover the poet within with some guiding tips to help you begin. Remember, you don’t need to be trained as a poet or be a practicing artist to create your own haiku. Follow the outlined guide below and stay curious as you explore the possibilities. 

 Practical Tips for Starting a Haiku Practice:

1. Observe your surroundings: Haiku often captures the essence of a moment or scene. Pay attention to the beauty of nature, the changing seasons, and the small details in your everyday life.

2. Focus on imagery: Use vivid, sensory language to paint a picture in the reader's mind.

3. Keep it simple: Haiku is about expressing a moment or emotion in a concise, powerful way. Don't overcomplicate your message.

4. Practice the 5-7-5 structure: This syllabic pattern helps to create a natural rhythm in your poetry, adding to its beauty and impact.  Clap out the syllables to keep them within the structure of 5-7-5.

5. Reflect on your emotions: Haiku often evokes a sense of wonder, melancholy, or joy. Tap into your emotions and let them guide your writing.

6. Write regularly: Make haiku writing a part of your daily or weekly routine to strengthen your creative muscle and hone your poetic skills.

7. Let go of judgement: Use this as an opportunity to have fun and give your inner critic a vacation because haiku is a personal form of expression, unique to you and the moment.

For those who may feel intimidated by the idea of trying their hand at haiku, remind yourself that there are no expectations or defined outcomes in the realm of creativity.  Haiku is an invitation to explore your inner world and share your unique perspective.  If you find it challenging to incorporate into an already packed schedule, then maybe you approach it as a way to process stressful situations or add humor to a tense moment.  Experiment and embrace the process while being kind to yourself as you learn and grow.  Give the process a chance to take root before you quit and deem yourself a failure.  The creative process asks you to come take a swim and saturate in the mystery of the adventure.   

Haiku poetry offers a simple yet powerful way to unlock your inner artist, explore your creativity, and engage with the world around you.  Embrace the beauty and simplicity of this poetic form, and you'll not only enrich your creative life but also discover a new way of seeing and appreciating the wonders of everyday existence.

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Creative Becoming

Heartbeat of an Artist

For the artist, there is something that seeks expression.  It is a longing, a desire and a propulsion to create what is yet unknown into the manifest world.  I didn’t understand it at the time, but my third-grade teacher was correct when she pulled my mother aside and told her I would be an artist.  For years I thought it meant being a visual artist.  I graduated from college with a Bachelor of Arts in Asian Studies and Studio Art with a concentration in Buddhism and photography.  My path into the world, however, was unclear.  All these years later, after countless meandering paths through life, I can finally see my own unique artform. 

The Creativity Component

From a classical perspective, to be an artist is to engage in the expression of ideas, emotions, and experiences through various forms of media such as painting, music, writing, or performance.  An artist uses their imagination and skills to create works that evoke feelings, provoke thoughts, or inspire others.  They are the alchemists who transform the mundane into the extraordinary, the abstract into the tangible, and the silence into symphonies.

One critical component in the artist’s toolbox is creativity.  It is the ability to generate original ideas, concepts, or solutions, often by combining existing elements in new and innovative ways.  An artist who is empowered with this tool means they can think outside the box, take risks, and explore new possibilities.  They are guided by a curiosity that helps them to continue trying and remixing things, like a scientist in a lab—to approach problems or tasks with an open mind and innovative thinking.  Creativity is the spark that ignites new ways of interpreting the world and enables the conception of something novel. 

Being creative, however, is not limited to the realm of “artist” as it’s an inherent aspect of the human experience.  It permeates every facet of our lives, from our most basic survival instincts to our most profound emotional and intellectual pursuits.  Creativity enables us to devise innovative solutions and adapt to changing circumstances, ensuring our survival and success.  In social interactions, humor, empathy, and the ability to navigate complex social situations are all manifestations of our creative nature.  The ability to imagine and think abstractly is a fundamental aspect of human creativity.  Our curiosity drives us to explore the unknown, ask questions, and seek new knowledge, fueling innovation and discovery.

 A Spiritual Quest 

Since graduating from college, two things have been abundantly clear—my passion for the quest of Truth and the pursuit of self-evolution.  Unbeknownst to me, my spiritual path has been leading me through the alchemical terrain of inner transformation where art and being creative merge.  My body of work here at The Living Art has emerged from this intersection.   I have been a visual artist, but my potential comes alive in the sacred space of metamorphosis where the transcendent nature of being a living art is awakened within each of us.   This is my gift and my true artform.

The Canvas Within

If being creative is innate to being human, then by default, we are all artists in our own right.  The canvas is not external, but an internal space that we consciously create as we do our inner work to emerge embodied.  Purpose is integrated into potential because we are looking beyond what is expected or adopted due to outside influences.  This is a process of distillation and leaves behind what is original; the dimension where we all shine.  In this work, we paint upon the canvas with the colors of kindness, forgiveness, acceptance, courage, and peacefulness to become.    

 Creativity in Everyday 

The art of becoming is a process and one that The Living Art workshops explore in depth.  However, we can get started by inviting more opportunities to be consciously creative in how we show up and greet the moment.  We can shape and color our lives and the world around us with our unique blend of experiences, emotions, and ideas.  Here are some different ways to get started:

• Seek the extraordinary in the ordinary: Challenge yourself to find beauty, meaning, and inspiration in the mundane aspects of daily life.  Set a time each day to observe the world around you with fresh eyes and appreciate the subtle miracles that often go unnoticed.

• Cultivate mindful curiosity: Approach every experience with a sense of wonder and a genuine desire to learn.  Ask questions, explore new perspectives, and stay open to the possibility of discovering something new and unexpected.

• Embrace vulnerability: Commit to sharing one authentic thought, feeling, or experience with someone you trust each week.  By opening up to others, you'll create deeper connections and encourage greater empathy, understanding, and acceptance in your relationships.

• Transform challenges into opportunities: When faced with obstacles, take a step back and brainstorm at least three creative solutions.  Instead of dwelling on limitations, focus on the possibilities that emerge from stepping outside your comfort zone.

• Practice active listening: Engage with others in meaningful conversations and truly listen to their stories, ideas, and perspectives.  This exchange of thoughts and experiences can inspire new insights and foster creative growth.

• Visit art galleries and museums: Plan a visit to an art gallery or museum once a month to immerse yourself in creative environments. Go with the intention of learning about what inspired the artist and how they chose to interpret that inspiration into a manifested form.

• Read books on creativity: Set a goal to read at least one book on creativity every two months.  This could be books on artistic techniques, the creative process, or the lives of famous artists.  These resources can offer valuable insights on nurturing your own creative lifestyle.

New Beginnings Await.

Creativity is not only an integral aspect of being an artist but also a key component of our human existence.  By embracing and cultivating our creativity, we open ourselves up to a more nourishing and fulfilling life.  When we are available and receptive, as opposed to closed-down and shut off, we’re in an expanded state of being that is prime for creating art.  Not through a physical medium, but through the inner-scape of who you become.  “Creative Becoming” is therefore, the inward facing, conscious experience of crafting yourself to be the living art.    

Creativity is a doorway.  It is an access point to a more enriching life because it grounds us into the experience of life, instead of unconsciously floating through it.  We’ll begin to wake up and make new connections within ourselves to become courageous explorers who venture within to bring forth previously hidden treasures.  The true value of life resides here.  By integrating a creative approach into your daily life, you'll not only invite more opportunities for creative expression but also foster a deeper connection with your true self, unveiling the inner masterpiece that resides within.  Embrace the living art that you are, and let it inspire and transform you as you journey through the beautiful tapestry of life.

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Beyond Happiness

Externalized Pursuits

In our modern lifestyle, we are constantly bombarded with images and messages promoting an idealized version of happiness.  The marionette of happiness tells us we will finally be at peace when we have found the dream job, the loving partner, or the perfect fill in the blank.  But what if we've been asleep and sleepwalking towards something that can never quench our thirst?  No matter how enticing and convincing the illusion may be, the external world is not capable of filling you. 

Peacefulness is at the core of what we all desire.  It’s there, embedded within us.  For some it is more accessible than others, but it’s like a silent heartbeat that animates all of us.  In the extroverted landscape of our current society, happiness has become a misdirection. Why?  Because it is too often connected with gaining something outside of ourselves.  True peacefulness is not about the accumulation of external things nor is it the story of an externally focused life.  Rather, it is about turning our gaze inward and taking charge of managing our own well-being from within.  In this blog post, I’d like to explore the concept of peacefulness, how it differs from our modern definition of happiness, and how we can cultivate this essential quality within ourselves.

The Illusion of Happiness

Happiness, as we've come to understand it in our culture, is often tied to external circumstances.  We believe that once we have achieved a certain level of success, recognition, or material wealth, we will finally be happy.  But this pursuit of happiness is elusive; we are always striving for more, never truly satisfied with what we have.  Even once we attain the “thing” we’ve been chasing, it offers only a temporary charge of relief.  The hunger will return and throw you back into the hunt for happiness.  This constant striving can leave us feeling empty, disconnected, and ultimately unfulfilled.

The journey of self-discovery asks us to become conscious of our unconscious patterns, so we can wake up and make new choices that are in alignment with our innate potential.  No longer hemorrhaging our life energy and paying homage to false idols, all the while becoming more and more depleted within ourselves.  Continuing on the illusion of happiness treadmill is not only exhausting, but unnecessary.  We mistakenly believe that finding peace is somehow connected to "being happy" and that this will be achieved once the perfect circumstances arise in our lives. However, this mindset only serves to perpetuate our dissatisfaction and discontent.

Redefining Peacefulness

Being peaceful is an inner quality.  It’s not something you can pretend to embody or force yourself to accept because it is a state of being.  It arises as a result of digesting the true nature of life—that we can react, or we can respond to the moment.  When we react, we become entangled and drift further into the illusion of separation.  Emotions such as anger, frustration, and shame take root and we become lost to these powerful reactions, swept up in the drama.  When we respond, we are residing in Awareness and can make a conscious choice about how to manage ourselves.  Anger can still arise, but awareness allows us to be conscious of this reaction.  Meaning, we won’t follow it into the grips of chaos because we are going to choose a new outcome within ourselves.  In this way, being in control of how we show up in life is the path to peacefulness. 

When we remain focused on the external world as the provider of how we feel within ourselves, we are most certainly setting ourselves up for a challenging and ultimately miserable existence.  For example, you are in line for a significant promotion, and you feel anxious anticipation because your self-worth is tied up in the result.  You get the promotion, happy celebration.  You don’t get the promotion, dejected depression.  What if instead, you approached the situation through the lens of Awareness as an opportunity to grow, no matter what the outcome?  Then, we are inviting peacefulness into our lives because we are not being defined by the moment, but we are defining the moment.    

Experience Makes It Yours

To fully comprehend this internal shift, it must be awakened within us.  No amount of reading or studying can replace the authenticity of experience.  I’ve created an exercise to facilitate this process so you can set yourself up for success.  You’re going to choose one area of your life to begin with where you can consciously set up the parameters beforehand.  This way, you will already have the framework in place so you can create the space for Awareness to meet you.  Let's explore this technique that will help you nurture inner peace and transform your life. 

A Process to Cultivate Peacefulness

• For this exercise, you’ll need a journal and writing utensil.

• Set aside at least 30 minutes and start by identifying one situation in your life where you feel happy when you get outcome A and you feel upset if you get outcome B.  For example, you feel happy when traffic is light, and you feel annoyed when it is heavy.  You feel happy when your daily meeting is short, and you feel frustrated with it drags on. Write down your answer. 

  • Talk more about the situation and explore your own reactions.  Observe yourself and explain in as much detail as you can what happens when you get the outcome you want and what happens when you don’t.

• Now, if you remove the outside situation that triggers a response within you, how would you like to feel?  You have complete control over how you feel in the situation, how would you like to feel instead?  Inspired?  Grateful?  Calm?  Write out your responses and be mindful not to get caught up in the mind chatter of, “That will never happen”.

• Next, make a list of things that can support you in feeling the emotions you wrote about above.  If you are driving and get stuck in traffic, maybe you wrote down that you’d like to feel inspired.  What would help you feel inspired?  Would it be listening to an uplifting audio book?  A favorite podcast?  Or a certain style of music that eases your mind?

• Get prepared so that next time you are in whatever situation, you are ready to become conscious and take action. In this way, you have prepped the inner-scape beforehand so you are ready to make a new choice instead of defaulting to your usual unconscious habit.

• Finally, put it into action.  When you are faced with the situation you highlighted, use the resources you’ve prescribed for yourself.  If you don’t actively use the process, it will have absolutely no benefit for you. 

Embracing the Journey

Make a concerted effort to carry through with the above process.  It is a starting point and one that can be expanded out into other areas of your life.  You will see firsthand how it works and this experience is what you can build off of.  If you are met with resistance, say “hello, resistance!” and observe what is happening so you can find creative solutions to support yourself.  Remember, giving up isn’t a solution when change is what you seek. 

The path to peacefulness is a journey of self-discovery, requiring us to examine our beliefs, thoughts, and actions.  As we redefine peacefulness and shift our focus from external circumstances to our inner world, we can cultivate a life of contentment and balance.  The above exercise is proof that you are in control and can consciously respond to life instead of unconsciously reacting to life.  By implementing these creative tips, we can foster a sense of peacefulness that transcends the illusion of happiness.  As we embrace this new way of being, we become empowered to create a life that is not defined by the external world but rather by the deep and abiding peace that resides within us.

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The Power of Honesty

Overcoming Fear and Finding Your Resonant Path

The Challenge of Finding Life's Direction

Throughout my experiences, I've met countless individuals grappling with the challenge of finding their life's direction.  A common thread binds their stories: fear and uncertainty held them back, preventing them from taking the necessary steps to fulfill their dreams.  In many instances, this fear originates from their inability to be honest with themselves about their true desires in life.

Listening to our inner voice means prioritizing ourselves, which can be uncomfortable for many.  Consequently, other responsibilities take precedence, daily life's monotony sets in, and we increasingly distance ourselves from that quiet inner guidance.  Introducing such clarity into our lives can be overwhelming, especially when societal norms have dictated that our aspirations don't matter.

I'm here to assure you—and all those I've encountered in the past—that you absolutely do matter. Embracing the power of honesty can initiate the process of connecting with a life that invigorates and empowers you.

 Honesty as a Transformative Power

Honesty is a fundamental aspect of our personal growth and development.  It refers to the quality of being truthful, genuine, and sincere in one's thoughts, feelings, and actions.  It involves being open and transparent, both with oneself and with others, and refraining from deceit, exaggeration, or distortion of the truth.  Honesty is a key aspect of personal integrity and is essential for building trust, fostering healthy relationships, and maintaining self-respect.  In essence, honesty means aligning one's words and actions with reality and being authentic in one's interactions and self-reflection.

Harnessing the transformative power of honesty means we're able to perceive life exactly as it is, without distortion or rejection. To simply observe life—no filters or blind spots—so we can see what is actually happening.  For example, let's say we are miserable at our job, but we refuse to admit it because it is supposed to be our “dream job.”  When we feel unhappy at work, we immediately deny how we feel and quickly replace the honest feelings with a well-crafted excuse.  So, we've trained ourselves to accept the lie and disregard how we authentically feel.

When we hit pockets of emotional turmoil within ourselves, our tendency is to ignore or deny it. Creating a life that is an expression of our highest potential intrinsically requires a willingness to confront our innermost fears, doubts, and insecurities. It demands that we take an honest look at our lives and evaluate what works and what doesn't.  Honesty is not always easy simply because we have yet to befriend its transformative power.  Learning how to integrate honesty into our life is foundational to the work of metamorphosis if we are truly aimed towards a fulfilling and purposeful life.

a list of potential clues that we’re not being honest

• Engaging in emotional eating or other unhealthy coping mechanisms to avoid dealing with negative emotions, such as eating ice cream when feeling sad.

• Consistently complaining about certain aspects of our lives, but never taking action to address the underlying issues.

• Avoiding conversations or situations that could bring up difficult emotions or require facing an uncomfortable truth.

• Frequently making excuses for our behavior or choices, rather than acknowledging any personal responsibility.

• Exhibiting procrastination or self-sabotaging behaviors, which can signal a deeper issue we're unwilling to confront.

• Experiencing physical symptoms, such as chronic stress, anxiety, or fatigue, which may indicate unresolved emotional issues.

• Constantly seeking external validation, approval, or attention as a way to avoid addressing personal dissatisfaction or insecurity.

• Pursuing goals or interests based on societal expectations or the desires of others, rather than our own authentic passions.

• Frequently feeling resentful or envious of others, which may signal an underlying dissatisfaction with our own life choices.

• Struggling with indecision or constantly changing our minds about important life decisions, potentially reflecting a fear of facing our true desires.

It's important to note that these clues can vary from person to person, and not all of these behaviors may indicate a lack of honesty with oneself.  However, if we consistently exhibits several of these patterns, it may suggest we are struggling with being honest about our feelings, desires, or needs.

The Struggle with Honesty

The Fear of Discovery

One of the reasons people struggle with being honest with themselves is that they are afraid of what they might find.  They fear that they may discover they are not living the life they truly desire or that they have been wasting their time and energy pursuing something that does not align with their core.  This fear can be paralyzing, but it is crucial to remember that this is a natural response, and it doesn't have to be our final response.  If we give up when we meet resistance, then we've just been defined by the fear.  That is one option, but overcoming our fears so we can move forward is an equally valid option.  The choice is ours to make. 

The Fear of Consequences

Another reason people struggle with honesty is that they fear the consequences of being honest.  They worry that they may upset others or cause conflict in their relationships if they choose a new path.  This fear of confrontation and conflict can feel too intense, but honesty is always the best policy because it is rooted in truth.  Some people also have anxiety about altering their current life because it has become comfortable.  Change introduces an unknown factor, and this might be too overwhelming to process, so people shut down to possibility.

In the short term, honesty can feel like an impenetrable wall that we'd rather turn our backs to, so we never have to look at it again.  However, in the long run, being honest with ourselves and others is always the most beneficial and rewarding path.  The consequences can be managed, and we are fully capable of doing so.  No matter what, there is a passageway leading us forward.  Being honest honors what is important to us, and this is what we must cultivate in our life if we seek change.

  Tapping into the Power of Honesty

So how can we tap into the power of honesty and use it to connect with our life's potential?  The first step is to give ourselves permission to do this work.  To acknowledge that it can feel scary but be reassured—we’re strong enough to make this effort and learn more about ourselves in the process.  Once we’ve primed the engine, we’re ready to take an honest look at our lives and evaluate what is working and what isn't.  We need to be willing to ask ourselves some tough questions and confront any fears or doubts that may arise, without listening to any limiting thought patterns that can get triggered.  Letting go of anything that no longer serves us doesn’t necessarily mean an upheaval of our lives, but rather changing how we approach the moment which will allow us to move towards the things that truly matter to us.

 A Three-Stage Process for Cultivating Honesty

1. Create a "Truth Box"

Designate a small box or container as your “Truth Box.”  Whenever you catch yourself being dishonest or avoiding the truth, write it down on a piece of paper and place it in the box.  Do this for at least a full week and don’t open the box until the end of the weeklong period.

 2. Make Time for Self-Reflection

After the week has passed, find a quiet place where you can be alone with your thoughts and dedicate a full hour for this exercise.  You’ll want to have a journal ready for this part of the process as you start by asking yourself questions like, “What do I really want out of life?” and “Am I happy with my current situation?”  Write down your answers without editing and reflect on them before you open the “Truth Box.”

•  Next, open the box and read the messages you have deposited for the week. Read them one at a time and then compare what you wrote to the journal entry you just created.  Does anything stand out to you?  What insight can you gather about yourself?  What thought patterns are holding you back because you haven’t been honest with yourself?

•  Use this time for self-reflection and self-exploration.  Give yourself full permission to be honest and state what you are authentically feeling.  If you feel hesitant, write that.  If you feel scared, that is being honest.  Write that down.  Your goal here is to give expression to the little voice that has been trying to get your attention.

 3. Take a Solo Hike

Pack your journal, pen, water, and snacks as you embark on a solo hiking adventure.  This is an experience exclusively for you and you alone. It will provide you with the opportunity to focus on your inner voice and gain a deeper understanding of your true desires.  During this hike, you’re going to find a meditative spot in nature where you’ll sit and read over your journal notes from the previous exercise.  Use this time to reflect on your life and the choices you've made, allowing yourself to be honest about what you want to achieve next.

• Reflect and then listen. Put your journal down, turn your phone off, and listen.  Listen to the wind, feel the breeze on your face, soak up the warmth of the sunshine.  Just be still and be open to listen.

•  Allow whatever insight comes to you to speak to you. Keep the door open and receive.

•  When you are finished, give gratitude for the experience of Presence and make a promise to yourself that you’re going to find a way to take action upon the insight.

Embracing Honesty for Personal Growth

The power of honesty lies in its ability to connect us with our true selves.  No more hiding or pretending that we’re satisfied when we know deep down that we are not fulfilled.  Crafting this level of intimacy with ourselves is very humbling, but most of all, an extremely rewarding experience.  When we’re totally vulnerable and open to the truth, it enables us to live authentically and in alignment with our core values and beliefs.  It empowers us to pursue our dreams and live our full potential because we’re finally listening to what WE desire.  When we are honest with ourselves, we are able to make better decisions, build stronger relationships, and create a more fulfilling life.

Welcoming the power of honesty into our lives cannot be overstated.  It is essential if we are to connect with our life's potential and live a life that is in resonance with who we intrinsically be.  We need to be willing to confront our fears and doubts and be honest with ourselves about what truly matters to us.  Each step of the way can be guided by a new vision as we integrate the past so we can dance in the light of wisdom.  By stepping out of our comfort zones, we can consciously create a life around our innermost dreams and aspirations.  When we do this, we can unlock our true potential and live a life that is truly worth living. As we continue to develop our relationship with honesty, we'll find that it becomes a guiding force in our lives, leading us towards a more fulfilling, purposeful, and authentic existence.

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Why Less Is More

The Beauty of Simplicity

In a society that often promotes consumerism and the constant pursuit of more, the concept of simplicity may seem counterintuitive.  People's perceptions of simplicity can be clouded by misconceptions, leading them to undervalue its importance.  With the consumer mentality of “more” often taking center stage, embracing simplicity is actually essential for our overall sense of being grounded and centered.  Cultivating simplicity in our lives allows us to declutter our minds, reduce stress, and refocus on what truly matters—our inner growth and genuine connections with others.  Embracing the “less is more” philosophy can have a profound impact on our lives, leading to greater happiness, fulfillment, and well-being.  By adopting a simpler lifestyle, we can create space for self-reflection, mindfulness, and an increased appreciation for the beauty in life's small moments.  In essence, simplicity paves the way for a more balanced, fulfilling, and spiritually nourishing existence.

Uncover Clarity and Harmony

Simplicity can be defined as the pursuit of clarity, focus, and a more meaningful life by reducing unnecessary complexity and distractions.  Even deeper, it is the art of embracing the essence of life, savoring the magic in the mundane, and uncovering the extraordinary in the ordinary.  It's a mindful dance that weaves together minimalism, intentionality, and a deep appreciation for the subtle beauty in our world.  Simplicity is like the soft, calming notes of a gentle melody, guiding us towards inner tranquility and unburdening our hearts from the chaos of excess.  It's a journey towards self-discovery, where we learn to cherish the present moment and cultivate a harmonious connection with our surroundings and our true selves.

Many individuals find themselves grappling with the concept of simplicity.  This struggle can be attributed to a variety of influences that shape our modern lives.  One such influence is the relentless pursuit of material wealth, which is often viewed as a symbol of success and happiness.  To some, “simplicity” might be linked to an image of living in lack and not being able to afford the luxuries life has to offer.  Society bombards us with messages that encourage consumerism, leading to an insatiable desire for more and a persistent sense of dissatisfaction.

Another significant factor contributing to this struggle is the pervasive fear of missing out (FOMO) that has become all too common in our hyper-connected world.  With an endless stream of information and options at our fingertips, people are constantly exposed to new experiences, opportunities, and connections.  This fear can create an overwhelming sense of pressure to keep up and participate, making it challenging for individuals to simplify their lives and focus on what truly serves them.  They are too busy being focused on the external world to realize that it is draining them.

Moreover, emotional ties to possessions, relationships, or habits can further complicate our ability to embrace simplicity.  We may find it difficult to let go of these attachments, as doing so can bring up feelings of loss, guilt, or fear.  This resistance to change can prevent us from recognizing the benefits of a more minimalist and intentional lifestyle.  A lifestyle that nourishes us from within because we are connected to the heartbeat of something much larger. 

In order to move toward a simpler and more fulfilling life, it is essential to acknowledge and confront these influences.  Putting a bandage on a splinter doesn’t remove the splinter—we have to get the tweezers and actively pull the foreign object out in order for the body to heal.  Likewise, we need to balance our life by cultivating self-awareness, challenging societal norms, and developing the courage to prioritize our true values so we can extract ourselves from the noise.  We can start now to gradually untangle ourselves from the complexities that hold us back and embrace the beauty of simplicity in our everyday lives.

Benefits of Simplicity

Living a chaotic life is like trying to navigate through a dense, overgrown jungle, filled with thorny bushes, tangled vines, and hidden obstacles.  You're constantly fighting your way through, expending energy to push aside the clutter, and often feeling lost and overwhelmed.  Each step is a struggle, and progress is slow and exhausting.

In contrast, living a simplified life is like strolling through a well-tended garden, where the path is clear and easy to follow.  The plants are thoughtfully arranged, and there's ample space to breathe and move freely.  You can appreciate the beauty of your surroundings without feeling overwhelmed, and each step feels light and effortless as you navigate through life's journey with grace and serenity.

Therefore, the benefits of simplicity touch various aspects of our lives, weaving together a tapestry of enhanced inner well-being.  When we choose to simplify, we invite mental clarity into our lives, reducing decision fatigue and honing our focus on what truly matters.  We free ourselves from the tangled web of distractions and discover the tranquility of emotional well-being, alleviating stress and anxiety as we unburden ourselves from an  excessive lifestyle.

In this serene space, we cultivate self-awareness and mindfulness, connecting more deeply with our emotions and inner selves.  As we continue to strip away the clutter, we discover that simplicity fuels productivity and efficiency, allowing us to zero in on our goals and achieve them with greater ease.  Our relationships, too, are transformed, as we choose to invest our time and energy in the connections that genuinely enrich our lives.  Ultimately, embracing simplicity helps us refocus on the things that matter most, fostering a profound appreciation for the experiences, relationships, and pursuits that bring us true joy and fulfillment. 

  Practical Tips for Embracing a Life of Simplicity

• Declutter Your Home and Workspace

Start by letting go of possessions that no longer serve you or bring joy to your life.  Focus on creating a calming, clutter-free environment that promotes relaxation, focus, and creativity.

• Prioritize Your Time and Energy

Identify your most important tasks, activities, and relationships, and invest your time and energy accordingly.  Learn to say "no" to nonessential commitments and distractions.

• Practice Mindful Spending

Create a budget and be intentional with your spending habits.  Prioritize financial stability and seek to cultivate a sense of abundance and gratitude for what you already have.

• Cultivate Deep, Meaningful Relationships

Invest time and energy in the connections that truly matter.  Set healthy boundaries and let go of toxic relationships to simplify your emotional landscape.

• Pursue Work That Aligns with Your Values and Goals

Find fulfillment in your career by focusing on tasks and projects that align with your values and goals.  Strive for a healthy work-life balance to maintain simplicity in all aspects of life.

I encourage you to take the first steps towards a simpler life.  If the above list feels too overwhelming, then choose one item and commit to following through.  Not tomorrow or next week, but today.  As in now.  Yes, now.  A life of simplicity can bring numerous benefits that you deserve because a life of more is never going to fill the void.  As we step boldly into the embrace of a simpler way of being, we find that we are renewed and rejuvenated—feeling lighter and more expanded.  When we let go of the extraneous, we are showing kindness to ourselves and making room for serenity in our lives.  Wouldn’t you rather have serenity over a cluttered closet?  Let the beauty of simplicity be your compass, guiding you towards a life where less truly becomes more, and where the treasures of the heart outweigh the trappings of the material world.

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